The Boy and Girl Friend Debate

Boys and girls. Men and women.
Can these two kinds ever really just have a platonic relationship as just friends?


I am the type of girl who doesn't deal well with bitchiness or confrontation.
As a little girl i was a tomboy, instead of playing dress up with barbies i was busy cutting their hair off and getting bruises on my knees from riding bikes and climbing trees.
Being a daddy's girl and having a little brother, i was far more interested in Rugby, football and living my dream of wanting to be an actress and a secret agent.
Of-course i was going to do these two careers at the same time obviously.

At school i did have best friends that were girls but i was always more interested in hanging with boys, playing console games and escaping from makeup and bitching sessions.
Growing up i spent time with my cousins who were mostly male. Now at 23 i have many friends.
Beautiful female best friends but many close friends are male. Recently it got me thinking about peoples perception of male and female close friendships.. can it really ever just be friends.. can this truly work?


In my 23 years of hanging with the lads.. most of my best guy friends have either ended up liking me.
Not all.. but most. This meant that the close and special friendship we had.. got lost which really upset me and for a while made me hold back from having a boy as a best friend.

I do believe that there are cases where women and men can simply have a platonic friendship with neither of them ever wanting more, but i also believe that to be a hard and rare situation, of-course this is entirely my own view based on my own experience. Sometimes it will work, but what if one of you wants more.. what if a drunken kiss happens or a drunken heart to heart where truths out themselves, once stuff like that happens can it ever be forgotten?

Will one of you always want more? Sometimes you both have more without realizing.
There you both are, spending time together, sharing hopes.. secrets and interests, you speak everyday and know each-other inside out.. without you both knowing that on the outside it seems more that you may as-well be boyfriend and girlfriend without the sex or title.


Couples are or should be best friends anyway so in my opinion there is a very thin line that men and women can easily cross in taking their friendship status into something much more.

Let me know what you think?

Jade xox