Monday, 3 February 2014
10 Rules Every Girl should live by
No Girl on Girl HateThere is enough going on in a girls life, rather than having to worry about going at war with eachother, there is nothing I hate more than bitchiness, us girls should stick together, we are all the same, we all have the same insecurities, bringing eachother down is horrible and pointless, instead smile at eachother, compliment eachother, and if you have a problem tell the girl, don't degrade or play games. If girls spent more time being nice instead of horrible the world would be a happier place ;)
Love your friends
In your life, you will have friends come and go, but there will always be a select few who are your soul mates, your sisters. Cherish your nearest and dearest, when the party is over they are the ones who are around. They are the people who will understand you the most, who will know you inside out and all your faults and still love you for it, treat them carefully, they are fragile, appreciate them, and always let them know how must you love them. You need them as much as they need you, and when you cant stand yourself they will. Never make them feel forgotten, whether you have a boyfriend, a baby or are not as close by anymore.
Men are not your life
Men are no way the be all and end all of life. Men are nice, you will love a man at some point in your life, you may love a few, but don't let men control your life. Don't waste time crying over boys. One day you will find a man who cuts the bullshit out, you will know when hes the one, so until then, drop the boys out your life and spend all that loveon yourself instead. It's okay to be single. If you are sad about not finding your prince, have fun kissing frogs until you do ;)
Celebrate your Success
Its more than okay to be proud of your achievements, don't hold back on celebrating your own success. Scream it from the rooftops, tell yourself your amazing. Pat yourself on the back. Bask in the good you have done.
Live your life
No matter what age you are by number.. never forget what it feels like to be young and alive. Live your life for you, not anybody else, you get one life, so fill it in every way you want to and can. People are always going to talk, so do what you have to do, you may as-well give them something worthy to talk about. Life's to short, don't waste it worrying or stressing, chances are your worries are minor and your stresses are over things that may never happen.
Work hard - Play Harder
Getting absolutely wasted on too many shots with your friends on a Saturday night - does not make you an alcoholic, it makes you - alive. Having a good time is not a crime. Let loose, go wild, drink way to many sambucas - Your young once, your carefree once, one day you may not be able to do all these things, so make the most of these years.
Regret nothing
In life you are going to make many mistakes. The wrong job, the wrong degree, the wrong boyfriends, the wrong choices. Everything happens how its meant to happen. You will learn something from every mistake you make, and you will come back better and stronger. Embrace it, and don't be scared to take risks and go with whats right at the time. Never fret over the past, it shapes our future.
Choose your company wisely
Don't keep company with those who make you feel like rubbish. You don't need people who compare themselves to you, or who make you feel your rubbish or in-debted to them. [People who love you for you, and enhance your life are those you need around. Remember you can pick who you have in your life, and getting a good team is the best thing you can ever do.
Travel
Travel while you can, while you have nothing holding you back, no children or mortgages or husband, get out there, see the world, let it change and shape you, trust me once you travel you will always travel, it is the most rewarding and amazing thing in life, and will bring you things you never knew were possible.
Stuff the Diet
Diets are not natural. Embrace them curves and eat that cheeseburger, if you spent more time loving your body and looking at your positives you may be a happier person, besides eating what you like is funner, and its your body ;)
So all my female friends, what are your rules you stand by? Feel free to share! And remember these rules :)
Jade xox
Tuesday, 28 January 2014
Rome wasn't built in a day.
God built the world in seven days, But Rome wasn't built in a day.
When it comes to life, we are all at different stages, some of us are struggling to get by, and some of us are soaring through reaching the stars. In life it's so important to remember that we get to where we are going all in our own time, and when our journey gets us there. Along the journey some of us will hit crossroads, and road blocks that will hold us up on our way. Its hard though, sometimes we will think 'Why do bad things happen to good people? - Why do they get all they want without trying? - Why am I still stuck going nowhere?' It can be so frustrating when we are stuck at our own crossroads, and everyone else seems to just cruise along on a one way route.
Many times I have reached a point in my life where I have had to make crucial decisions. When I Graduated University with aHonors degree in Media, I was lucky to get a job straight away with a Media company. Some will say this was lucky, but to this day I never put it down to being lucky, I searched way before I graduated and emailed and phoned many people looking for media work in preparation. I put effort into finding the job, it didn't just turn up one morning by luck, it took effort and determination, and yes it was lucky, but also down to my own self. Now working in The Media, was good, and I got a-lot of experience and stuff for my portfolio, I loved all the creative stuff I could do, and the opportunitys I got were amazing. However last year when I had a-lot going on, and was quite frankly having the worst year of my life. I quit. I walked away, packed up my box of office stuff like in the movies, and I left. I had no job to go to, but I also knew I was done there. Most would call this foolish, brave, stupid, crazy. But for me - I wasn't going down the path I wanted to be walking to get to where I one day want to be. It wasn't making me happy, I lost my drive. However again after Hunting like crazy I started a new job within a week, and was on a new path, or you could say, back on my old path the one I needed to get back on to.
Life takes effort. Most or all of us will have a dream, will have goals, or will have a vision of ourselves and our future, we all have an idea of what we want and where we want to be one day. Its important to NEVER lose sight of this, It's what drives us in life. Sometimes we do have to take risks. Leaving my job in the Media was a risk, and it may not have worked out, it still might not - But we have to do what we have to do sometimes, and follow our hearts and dreams. I am one of these people anyway who values happiness over money, and would choose a job for job satisfaction and rewards rather than pay cheques. But that's just me.
So - I urge you all to write a list of goals. It doesn't have to be a full on Bucket List like I produced for one of the pages on this blog, and nor does it have to be like a set of New Years Resolution, It can be as little as 3 Goals for Life, Goals that you never want to lose sight off, Goals that drive you. Keep these goals somewhere that you can look at often. It doesn't matter when you complete the goals, that's what is so important about them. You could achieve them in 20 years to come. But they are your goals, and they are you, they don't belong to anyone else's, It's your journey and you take as-long as you need. The journey is the destination.
My Goals for Life
- Become a Paramedic
- Travel the world
- Own a House
- Marriage then children
The important thing is not to be bitter over life's disappointments. Learn to let go of the past. And recognize that every day won't be sunny, and when you find yourself lost in the darkness and despair, remember it's only in the black of night you see the stars. And those stars will lead you back home. So don't be afraid to make mistakes, to stumble and fall, cause most of the time, the greatestrewards come from doing the things that scare you the most. Maybe you'll get everything you wish for. Maybe you'll get more than you ever could have imagined. Who knows where life will take you. The road is long and in the end, the journey is the destination.
Jade xox
Wednesday, 15 January 2014
In our lifetime we will get hurt by someone, by one of those mentioned. People will lie to us. People will reject us and some will break our hearts. We will all have our heart broken atleast once. Some will face heartache more than once. But what is sure for all is that we will all have a broken heart one that will be the all time break. There will always be an absolute heartbreak for us all. It can come at any age and for any reason but what is different about this shattered heart is that it will change you. It will make you strong. You will reach a low to get it all back again and when this terrible heartbreak starts to mend it makes itself ten times harder and foolproof. Afterall it wouldn't take all the time it does to mend if it was just going to make itself back to the weak old model as before.
We need to face the facts of life. Not everyone will like us. Plenty won't love us and some will make us feel like a waste of space. We will all experience rejection of somesort. We will all feel unwanted, and ugly at some stage in our lives. Some will deceive us and stab us in the back. Friends who we never thought would leave will disappear. Relationships will end and people we hold so close we go back to being strangers. We will all feel alone at some point in our lives. There will be struggles a many. This is all on the cards.
So what are we going to do. Cry, cave in, beg the ones that reject us to give us a chance because we will change. Chase those who have walked away from us. Linger around wallowing in self pity. Embark on self destruction. Give up. Hide away. Let our confidence reach rock bottom. Give ourselves to anyone just because we are desperate for love, for attention. Never trust. Never appreciate good?
I dont know about you, but none of that seems attractive to me, nor would I be interested in anyone who let that happen to themselves.
What is the point. Self pity and wallowing would prove them right and proving people wrong is one of lives greats. Who cares. Everything comes down to you. Trust you. Appreciate you. Love you. Dont waste time on anyone who makes you question yourself or who doesnt make you feel good and loved. Lifes short and at the end do you want to have let others have a control over your life and your destiny. Step out your shoes and look in at yourself and your life. Would you be proud of what you do if someone you truly loved was doing the same. Self pity and sadness about other peoples actions onto us will only ever hurt us.
So stop now. Man up. Move on. Get over it. There isn't enough time to dwell on it. Focus on the ones who do love you. You will know who they are trust me. I know that I will be following my own advice in future and giving my time to the ones who I never have to question. No more wasting time. Remember you have to put number one first, you are your greatest critic in life
Jade xox
Saturday, 11 January 2014
So I have began this post with one of my favorite quotes from Marilyn Monroe.
Clearly Marilyn was having a good day when she said this, she was known for her crazy and turbulent life, but this blog post isn't about Marilyn, It's about a little thing called POSITIVITY.
There is no point in sugar coating it, Life can be absolute rubbish sometimes, and sometimes we all have days where we feel like nothing is worth it, and that everything bad always happens to us, we are only human, and sometimes things do get to much. Now if we are honest with ourselves, when we feel like It's the end of the world, and that so much bad stuff comes our ways, the likelihood is that it really isn't as bad as we think, and that elsewhere someone truly is suffering and having the worst time ever. We can't be blamed for feeling sorry for ourselves though, and sometimes when something shit happens, we are not going to take on board that someone else is far worse off. BUT....
If we get into a pattern of allowing ourselves to get down about everything, and to be negative about our life's, then this will only ever continue, and nothing will ever seem hopeful or escapable.
Sometimes in life, we get stuck in a rut. Our routine of work, or school or University is mundane, we do the same things everyday, and we often think the same things too. Often these things are negative, we worry about money, relationships and education/work. Eventually these thoughts become normal, we begin to over analyse, over react and over think the negative thoughts and feelings, this will lead to a lack in interest, a lack in motivation and a lack in desire. You could call this a vicious circle. One that keeps going around and leads us nowhere, at the end of the day it's completely pointless. But hey in this state of mind who the hell cares right, because your all down, and your going to write a Facebook status about it, and your going to sit and hide under the covers all day.
NO!
One thing I have learnt in life is that -
What we think is how we come across, what we feel is what others see us as. If we believe that we are nothing, we will start to come across as nothing. If we think we are worthless, others will view us as disposable also. BUT..
If we believe we are strong, we act strong, we think strong. If we think we are worthwhile, good people we will start acting in that way too, and others around us will pick up on this, they will treat us differently, this leads on to a whole path in life, one where you are positive, confident and able to progress in life, able to achieve the dreams you want.
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Its all in your head..
Sometimes we just have to not care what everyone thinks, we have to care what we think, what we want and where we are going. Thinking more positive will not only change how you feel about yourself, but how others feel about you too. Your positivity will rub off on others, and this will lead you on journeys you never knew, positivity brings confidence and makes you feel inspired.
Sometimes you have to reflect and think of everything you do have in life, your good points, and your abilities. USE THEMand appreciate EVERYTHING you have. You have more than you think, you have more than most, and you have a duty to use them, you have a duty to yourself to be the best possible version of yourself. You owe it to you, nobody else.
And remember..
A bad attitude is like a flat tyre you can't go anywhere until you change it ;)
Jade xox
Sunday, 5 January 2014
Wednesday, 15 January 2014
Manning up and moving on
In life people will come into our lives and leave a mark of somesort, these people may be around a long time or just for a small while. Friends. Family. Boyfriends. Girlfriends, or even just flings or acquaintances. Whatever the reason it will affect us or our lives one way or another for the better or the worse.
In our lifetime we will get hurt by someone, by one of those mentioned. People will lie to us. People will reject us and some will break our hearts. We will all have our heart broken atleast once. Some will face heartache more than once. But what is sure for all is that we will all have a broken heart one that will be the all time break. There will always be an absolute heartbreak for us all. It can come at any age and for any reason but what is different about this shattered heart is that it will change you. It will make you strong. You will reach a low to get it all back again and when this terrible heartbreak starts to mend it makes itself ten times harder and foolproof. Afterall it wouldn't take all the time it does to mend if it was just going to make itself back to the weak old model as before.
We need to face the facts of life. Not everyone will like us. Plenty won't love us and some will make us feel like a waste of space. We will all experience rejection of somesort. We will all feel unwanted, and ugly at some stage in our lives. Some will deceive us and stab us in the back. Friends who we never thought would leave will disappear. Relationships will end and people we hold so close we go back to being strangers. We will all feel alone at some point in our lives. There will be struggles a many. This is all on the cards.
So what are we going to do. Cry, cave in, beg the ones that reject us to give us a chance because we will change. Chase those who have walked away from us. Linger around wallowing in self pity. Embark on self destruction. Give up. Hide away. Let our confidence reach rock bottom. Give ourselves to anyone just because we are desperate for love, for attention. Never trust. Never appreciate good?
I dont know about you, but none of that seems attractive to me, nor would I be interested in anyone who let that happen to themselves.
What is the point. Self pity and wallowing would prove them right and proving people wrong is one of lives greats. Who cares. Everything comes down to you. Trust you. Appreciate you. Love you. Dont waste time on anyone who makes you question yourself or who doesnt make you feel good and loved. Lifes short and at the end do you want to have let others have a control over your life and your destiny. Step out your shoes and look in at yourself and your life. Would you be proud of what you do if someone you truly loved was doing the same. Self pity and sadness about other peoples actions onto us will only ever hurt us.
So stop now. Man up. Move on. Get over it. There isn't enough time to dwell on it. Focus on the ones who do love you. You will know who they are trust me. I know that I will be following my own advice in future and giving my time to the ones who I never have to question. No more wasting time. Remember you have to put number one first, you are your greatest critic in life
Jade xox
Saturday, 11 January 2014
Positive Mind for a Positive Life?
"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."So I have began this post with one of my favorite quotes from Marilyn Monroe.
Clearly Marilyn was having a good day when she said this, she was known for her crazy and turbulent life, but this blog post isn't about Marilyn, It's about a little thing called POSITIVITY.
There is no point in sugar coating it, Life can be absolute rubbish sometimes, and sometimes we all have days where we feel like nothing is worth it, and that everything bad always happens to us, we are only human, and sometimes things do get to much. Now if we are honest with ourselves, when we feel like It's the end of the world, and that so much bad stuff comes our ways, the likelihood is that it really isn't as bad as we think, and that elsewhere someone truly is suffering and having the worst time ever. We can't be blamed for feeling sorry for ourselves though, and sometimes when something shit happens, we are not going to take on board that someone else is far worse off. BUT....
If we get into a pattern of allowing ourselves to get down about everything, and to be negative about our life's, then this will only ever continue, and nothing will ever seem hopeful or escapable.
Sometimes in life, we get stuck in a rut. Our routine of work, or school or University is mundane, we do the same things everyday, and we often think the same things too. Often these things are negative, we worry about money, relationships and education/work. Eventually these thoughts become normal, we begin to over analyse, over react and over think the negative thoughts and feelings, this will lead to a lack in interest, a lack in motivation and a lack in desire. You could call this a vicious circle. One that keeps going around and leads us nowhere, at the end of the day it's completely pointless. But hey in this state of mind who the hell cares right, because your all down, and your going to write a Facebook status about it, and your going to sit and hide under the covers all day.
NO!
One thing I have learnt in life is that -
What we think is how we come across, what we feel is what others see us as. If we believe that we are nothing, we will start to come across as nothing. If we think we are worthless, others will view us as disposable also. BUT..
If we believe we are strong, we act strong, we think strong. If we think we are worthwhile, good people we will start acting in that way too, and others around us will pick up on this, they will treat us differently, this leads on to a whole path in life, one where you are positive, confident and able to progress in life, able to achieve the dreams you want.
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Its all in your head..
Sometimes we just have to not care what everyone thinks, we have to care what we think, what we want and where we are going. Thinking more positive will not only change how you feel about yourself, but how others feel about you too. Your positivity will rub off on others, and this will lead you on journeys you never knew, positivity brings confidence and makes you feel inspired.
Sometimes you have to reflect and think of everything you do have in life, your good points, and your abilities. USE THEMand appreciate EVERYTHING you have. You have more than you think, you have more than most, and you have a duty to use them, you have a duty to yourself to be the best possible version of yourself. You owe it to you, nobody else.
And remember..
A bad attitude is like a flat tyre you can't go anywhere until you change it ;)
Jade xox
Sunday, 5 January 2014
Letter to my sixteen year old self
Dear sixteen year old self.
Hold your head high, your too hard on yourself, walking around with zero confidence and looking at the ground. Your so young yet you have so much stress on your shoulders and the mind of someone so much older. I know its never been easy, you didnt really have much time to act young and enjoy carefree years, but you need to try. I wish you could see yourself how you truly are. You dont need to lose weight, if only you knew this instead of embarking on self destruction mode. Starvation, purging, neither of these are good. You will look back and see how slim you was, if I could go back then I would remove the negative thoughts, the self hatred and appreciate what was really there.
It makes me sad, remembering the hurt and sadness that came with an eating disorder, one that stayed for years and years to come.
There were many battles though, some more trivial than others. Enjoy school, think less of what others think. One day very soon School will be a distant memory, ignore what the 'popular' kids think, it wont matter in years to come. You felt like you didnt have the confidence to get where you wanted because you were not one of the cool kids, but you will get to a place in life where those around you don't make you feel small or not good enough.
Not only will you go on to get a degree but University will bring you best friends for life and experiences that will never leave you. Travel will follow and you will one day be in Asia working in an orphanage in Thailand, it will then hit you, that you are braver and stronger than you could have ever imagined and this is why at sixteen I wish you could have seen how unbreakable you can be.
One thing I want you to know is never lose hope and never stop being the giving and loving person you are, you may be naive. In your years to follow you are going to lose best friends, boyfriend's and your way, but no matter how many people hurt or wrong you, your goodness is what will serve you. Dont lose yourself, there will be dark times ahead, but you will make it through all of it.
Your heart will get broken twice, you will heal it again. you will hate school, but absolutely love Sixth form and University. Your best friend now won't be for that much longer, in two years you will have to find a new best friend, but you will end up with four best friends instead. You have the biggest journey ahead of you.
So hold your head high, you have every reason to.
Jade xox
Wednesday, 1 January 2014
New Year, New Rules?
Oh Hello.. 1st January 2014.
You got here quick. I haven't even thought about New Years Resolutions and have never been one to make them. Like many others I have seen say 'I'm not making resolutions, I don't need too' etc etc, I was the same, I don't smoke, never have. I only drink socially, and I don't really have any bad habits that need fixing, so i never felt the need to make goals, and resolutions to stick by. 2013 happened how it happened, I achieved more in that year than in a lifetime, but they were not resolutions that I had planned.
I am a strong believer in fate and everything happening for a reason, and I believe our course will take us where we are meant to be, and all the bad and good things that happen can't be changed we have to face them.
I have made a bucket list in the past, and I love to cross off things I do achieve along the way. But I AM going to make New Years Resolutions and goals for 2014, just because I CAN.
So here is my version of my New Years Resolutions.
Travel
2013 showed me how much I love to Travel and all the greatness that Travel brings, Travelling healed me, it made me who I am today, you will never understand this until you have traveled, and by traveled I don't mean a holiday to Greece, I mean backpacking, absorbing whatever culture you are in. I went travelling alone, knowing nobody and came back with friends for life. Its about being brave and going it alone. So in 2014, I already have travel plans set up, Interailing in Europe, Visiting the following: Paris, Notre Dame, Belgium, Rome, Berlin, Prague, Budapest, Bulgaria, Croatia, Serbia, Macedonia .
Take Risks
You may never get somewhere, be with someone, or become someone without taking risks. Sometimes things in life can be scary, you may not be brave enough to stand up and do something, to tell someone something, to tell someone how you truly feel, and when you do it may all be too late. In 2014, I vow to say how I feel, to tell people what I think and to do what I want to do. Life's too short to hold back.
Get Over It
In 2014, I will get over it, whatever it may be, whether someone has upset me, whether there has been bad luck, bad news or a bad situation. You cannot dwell on the downsides in life, there will be shit, there will be tough times, but knowing that and being brave for that will make it much easier. So if someone doesn't like me, what I do, or who I am, then that's their problem not mine.
Think Less
Similar to my resolution above, I am going to think less about everything, stress less, and hold faith that things will work out how they are meant to. I have always been a worrier, but that gets you nowhere in life. Embrace the challenges, think less about the consequences, and enjoy the here and the now.
Think More
But at the same time. I will think more about what I want in life, where I want to be, as much as we find our way, we have to put effort into what we want, if we have dreams, we have to be the ones to make that happen, nobody is going to come along in life and do everything for you. You are the creator of your own destiny, and you are the only one that can change your life and make it happen. So think about what you want, what your dreams are, and start paving way for them.
SAVE
One thing i am terrible at is saving. I pay a-lot of bills, rent, car stuff and other annoying things. But I need to save, I am one for big plans, but they won't happen without funds. I will save each week.
Forgive
Forgiving and letting go is a massive thing for me. I have been wronged in the past, but I have forgiven now finally, and I think its such an important thing, so in 2014, if someone hurts me or upsets me, I will forgive and let go, holding onto negativity and dwelling on bad stuff is bad for the soul and will only ever hurt yourself, not the person.
Love
2013, I pledged to stay Single since I came out of a messy long relationship, and I did, and it taught me a-lot about others and myself, in 2014, I will love myself, because loving yourself is the most important thing you can do, I will also be more open to Love itself, and renew my faith in all things lovey dovey, and of course Love - Holding my family and friends close, and appreciating them.
Say Yes More
Taking chances, risks, saying 'Yes' to things you wouldn't normally, trying new things, embracing new people. Saying 'Yes' and being positive may change your life in ways you never knew.
Say No More
I have always been naive, and I am one of these people who would do anything for anyone. In the past I have done things I haven't wanted to do, gone to places I didn't want to go to, Helped people when I really shouldn't have, but all this has made me realize sometimes we need to stand out ground and be true to ourselves, so this year I will not be taking shit, or doing things just to please people. Its about being true to yourself.
So there are my ten resolutions, Let me know yours if you have made any, and have a lovely lazy New Years day!
Jade xox
Saturday, 7 December 2013
Never give up on your journey
No matter who you are or where you have come from we are all on an ongoing journey in life. Life is a journey with no clear destination and like every time we travel the path and destination can always change, obstacles can appear and the destination may have different stops along the way.
I used to think and believe that everything happens for a reason and that fate surrounds us in all we do. I still believe this in some ways but we are inevitably the makers of our own destiny. We can decide our course. We can decide who we want to be. We can change our destination and we can decide where we want to go. Everything we do has consequences. Ofcourse there will be times that something happens which we didnt expect in life. . Tragedys and surprises. These are not because everything happens for a reason and that this must mean you will only ever live life one way from then on out. It is sent instead to test you to remind you that your life is in your hands. You may not have control over events in life but you will ALWAYS have control over your actions and how you respond to it all.
So from today stop and look at your life. Are you where you want to be? Are you who you want to be. You still have time to reinvent it all.
Jade xox
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