Last week I asked those of you on Facebook and Twitter to give me some of your problems and questions for me to look at and respond to. Thank you for all of you who did, and below is some of the ones I received.
Thailand sounded amazing how did you go about this?
I booked my placement through Starfish volunteers. You can find them online, flights were booked with STA and I flew with Thai Airways. Id urge everyone to give volunteering a go, especially in Thailand doing something worthwhile, its rewarding and life changing and you will make a difference and reap the rewards of seeing it happen.
Whats your views on forgiveness?
Forgive but never forget. Ah, this has always been my flaw and the hardest thing for me, to forgive, seems so simple, but isnt. I know that in life we have to forgive, holding onto things only makes us bitter. It solves nothing. So yes, forgive if you can, try to atleast. But you wont necessarily forget, we don't forget as we protect ourselves from it happening again. Most importantly is forgiving ourselves, we have to do this first and its always harder.
Should I stay with someone whos cheated on me?
Im not going to lie and tell you how you should always walk away and other power stuff. I was cheated on many times by my ex, I always stayed, probably because I was scared of being alone and I loved them, but at the end of the day, every time he cheated damage was done and fragments of our love washed away, it was never the same. We got by, but the real issue was us, not the cheating. It comes down to why. I believe sometimes it can be solved and it can even fix a relationship. So really you have to establish why its happened and see for yourselves if its worth saving.
What do you value most in life?
Above all else my family. My best friends are family also. Always hold your loved ones close, to me thats my world in one.
Shouldn't single parents be supported more by the government? I love my job but I'm no better off I feel theirs alot of single parents out there who work to get by without insensitive. Whats your opinion on this?
Not being a parent, its hard for me to walk a day in your shoes and imagine how hard it is. Single parents and young parents dont get enough credit in my opinion. There should definitely be support for those who need to and want to work, the government spends enough time ridiculing and slating these parents rather than giving them the opportunitys they need and praising the stuff that they do do.
What do you want to be when your older?
Haha wow, when is older? When I was a little girl I wanted to be an actress or a spy, that was always the dream. Then I wanted to help children in Africa, instead I did that in Thailand, but for a long time now the dream is to be a paramedic.
Where do you want to be in five years?
Graduated again, in paramedic practice, then hopefully working in that sector. Its all career focused and driven these days, things like a career, my own place where I dont fork out so much on renting. These are things I desire now, surrounded by my family too and their love. Its such a stark difference to what I would have told you a year ago, which would have been to have a baby, maybe two, and to be with my ex having a family etc.
I feel I am holding myself back as I lack confidence what can I do?
Ask yourself why, whats making you feel insecure. Your appearance? People around you? Write it down. Once you find causes think about how you can improve these facts. Surround yourself around those who make you feel good, and tell yourself positive things, its all in your mind. Maybe try some confidence hypnotherapy or books.
Do you think love at first sight exists?
As a romantic yes that we all have a one, a soul mate, the one who has our heart, as a realist then no, love grows, there is a initial attraction, but its lust.
I feel like im drifting apart from my best friend what can I do?
First off dont panic. Breathe and think logically, are you down anyway? If so sometimes when we are down we overthink all else, we get insecure and worry. Are there reasons why you have a cause for concern, if so think it through, and then talk to your friend, writing it may be easier and think what you are going to say first, don't do it when your upset or angry it make come out wrong and make it worse. Remember they are your best friend for a reason and it will sort out if not then they cant of been such a good friend anyway.
I have no idea what I want to do in life, help.
First off listen to Baz Lurghmans sunscreen song. The best people dont know by thirty what they want to do in life, there is no set plan. Don't compare yourself to others. We all have a plan and we are all meant to get to where we are meant to. Enjoy the ride,
Feel free to ask me anything, you know where I am.
Jade xox
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