An open letter to you

Dearest  You.

I have no idea what you are going through. Right now your life could be on a high or it could be facing a series of lows. If your fortunate enough to be happy and things are good for you right now - then all I can say is - embrace every second of it, appreciate it and try your hardest to not let that feeling go, take it in and remember how lucky you are, happiness for you may not last for long, it may last for the rest of your time, but whatever you do, remember to give back some of that happiness and do your best to bring to others the happiness and love that you are feeling.

If you are not so lucky, and if reading this you could do with some happiness and inner peace then read on, and I can only hope that these words may bring you at-least some reassurance.

When I worked as a care nurse it's safe to say that all the people I cared for were coming to the ends of their lives. One woman in particular lived alone in a grand house, she had tons of money, tons of expensive antiques and her house was superior and grand to others I cared for. She was widowed and had been alone for the last thirty years, her husband was far older than her when they married and they did not have any children. Here she was reaching the last final stage of her life, and she had nobody to share it with, she was alone. Her grand house was left unused and in the end she was sanctioned by her own debilitating disease and old age, that she was left sleeping and living in one room downstairs. The grandeur that was once there was lost, and all the money in the world could not bring her the love and care she needed in the end.  It's safe to say that working as a care nurse opened my eyes to a-lot but if there is one thing I realized - It was that - In the end the dreams you create whether it is to be rich, successful or to have grand things - genuinely do not count for much in the end - Love and family are what you will crave in the end, because these are the things that make us safe and secure, these are the things we want to leave this world having, to me having a family will be my greatest success - So cater your dreams so that they will last a lifetime, and aim for what will make you happy in the end, if you were to leave this world - what mark would you have wanted to make? Sometimes our dreams don't have to be big - they can be as simple as dreaming to be happy and dreaming for a successful base - a family.

Make your dreams bigger than your fears.

Another eye opening in my life - was travelling. In Surin in Thailand I witnessed poverty - Now I am not on about the type of poverty where you cross a few homeless people in town - I am on about a place where people have never seen certain things, and never had luxuries that we do here. The things we have here we take for granted, for example - we think nothing of taking a hot shower or bath daily - But most will not have ever had a hot shower. Taking a step back and seeing what we do have, and to stop thinking about what we don't have is probably one of the most important things we can do. We all have so much more than we first realize, and just because we might not necessarily see them, does not mean they don't exist.

Working with children and babies as a full time job - has taught me some simplicitys about life.

Children do not judge. Children embrace anybody. Children love faultlessly and take in no account of our own faults. Children communicate their needs simply. They are hungry - they are sad. They are tired - they are sad. Someones snatched their toy - they are sad. Life as a child is simple. It's sad that when we grow older things start to change, society tells us who to socialise with, who to judge and life teaches us along the way that we cannot love faultlessly, because we have our own hearts to protect too, and in the long run, others wont love us back faultlessly. None of us are without fault.

So if there is one thing you can do it is to try your hardest to be kind, and to learn the importance of giving.

Remember everything happens the way it is meant to happen.

If you fail. Try again. Have no regrets, and no shame, you are who you are, if you cant accept who you are don't expect anybody else too.

You have been hurt. We all have, doesn't mean we let it destroy us, let it make you not break you.

Carrying on with life and accepting whats happened is the most important and vital life lesson of them all.

Life goes on, with or without you, so you can either fall and never get back up or you can push forwards and get stronger and stronger everyday.

At the end of it all - Only you can do these things, only you can make the change in yourself, we all have a choice in life, there are no if's or but's and we can't wait around for someone to save us or to fix it all as it might never happen, we have to stand tall on our own two feet and get on with it. 

Jade xox